Tired of Hearing “You Pick”? Date Night Ideas for Indecisive Couples

“What do you want to do for date night?”

“I don’t care. You pick.”

If that conversation sounds painfully familiar, you’re not alone. Agreeing on a time for date night is hard enough, but it’s just as challenging to pick something fun to do. It’s not easy getting two tired people to make a decision. 

The best date night ideas for indecisive couples solve that problem by taking most of the planning off your plate. Instead of comparing restaurants or exhausting-sounding activities, you pick one relaxing experience and call it done. 

So, the next time your partner says “You pick,” we have an answer ready: book a private beer or wine spa date at Oakwell. It takes five minutes to reserve, we handle the logistics, and it’s much more thoughtful than another dinner date. 

Here’s how to escape the “you pick” loop and get back to enjoying date night with your other half.

“You Pick” Fatigue Affects Your Relationship—And Not In A Good Way

Planning your date night in Denver isn’t easy. Sure, there’s plenty to do in Denver, but choosing something that both you and your partner will enjoy (and have the energy for) is easier said than done. 

If you’re caught in the “you pick” loop where you and your partner are tossing planning responsibilities back and forth, it makes date night feel more like a chore than something you look forward to. Worst of all, you might feel tempted to skip date night altogether because no one’s willing to take the lead on planning. 

Occasional indecision isn’t a big deal. But if most of your date nights start with a negotiation, it sucks the fun out of spending time together. Instead of looking forward to your plans, you’re doing homework just to make them happen. 

That’s why some of the best date night ideas for indecisive couples are experiences that are planned for you. With one reservation, you have a plan for the entire day or evening together. Plus, neither one of you has to plan an elaborate itinerary. 

The Best Date Night Idea for Indecisive Couples

Oakwell Beer Spa is the best date night idea for indecisive couples because all the hard work is done for you. Better yet, this isn’t one of those dates where you sit across a table asking, “So … what’s new?” You’re doing something together, but there’s still plenty of downtime to talk, laugh, have a drink, and reconnect.

Grab a Drink and Settle In

The hardest part of planning a date at Oakwell is figuring out the logistics to get here. We recommend arriving 30 minutes early so you have time to explore Oakwell and settle in. That also gives you a little buffer time in case you’re trapped in Denver traffic. 

When you arrive, check in, explore the taproom, and grab whatever sounds good. You can sample craft beer from the self-pour taps or sip on wine, kombucha, and our non-alcoholic options.

Get 90 Minutes of Just-Us Time

Next, you’ll head into your private spa suite. You don’t share the space with strangers and all spa treatments are in the same space. Your suite is yours for 90 minutes, where you can pass the time however you like. 

You can start by warming up in your infrared sauna, cool off under the rain shower, and then sink into a warm herbal beer- or wine-infused bath. This soak is Oakwell’s signature experience, which feels like a warm, gently fizzing bath that eases tension. 

The bath will start to drain at the 70-minute mark, giving you a little over an hour to soak and unwind. During the last 20 minutes of your reservation, you can rinse off in the rain shower, freshen up, and gather your belongings.

Turn Up the Romance

Want some extra date-night points with your partner? Book one of Oakwell’s couples spa packages. For example, the Couple’s Retreat includes candles and rose petals in your suite, plus artisan chocolate bonbons to share. It’s all the romance and surprise of date night, done for you. 

Finish With a Zero-Gravity Massage

Why not stretch date night out a bit? Add a zero-gravity massage experience to your booking, where you can relax side-by-side in the shared Relaxation Lounge. The serene, outer-space-inspired lounge is designed to help you drift away and unwind before or after your stay in the private suite. 

For more done-for-you relaxation, check out the Oakwell Escape package. It includes two 30-minute zero-gravity massage experiences along with extras like charcuterie and welcome drinks. 

That’s what makes Oakwell such an easy date night option: you get novelty, privacy, relaxation, and quality time together without coordinating everything yourself. 

How to Book Date Night In 5 Minutes Or Less

Instead of putting the ball back in your partner’s court when they say, “You pick,” take the initiative by planning an Oakwell date night. Even if you’re not much of a planner, this part is super easy. 

You can book an Oakwell date in just a few steps:

1. Pick your spa package: Choose the experience that sounds best for the two of you. If you’re new to Oakwell, you might prefer the Beer Therapy Ritual, which is our signature experience, while the Oakwell Escape is our most complete, all-in-one package. 
2. Choose an available date and time: Decide which Oakwell location is easiest for you to get to. Don’t forget to plan for traffic, especially if you’re going after work or on a busy weekend. After selecting a location, you’ll pick a time slot.
3. Add optional extras: Want to really surprise your partner? During booking, you’ll have the option to add sparkling wine, light gourmet snacks, decorations, and other extras to really set the mood.
4. Plan the logistics: Date night at Oakwell is a done-for-you experience, but you do need to handle a few details. We recommend arriving 30 minutes before your reservation, so work backward to decide on a good time to leave for date night. If you want to make an evening of it, consider grabbing dinner or drinks after you unwind at Oakwell.

You don't need dinner reservations, an hour-by-hour itinerary, or a backup plan in case one of you changes your mind. Just make the reservation and let Oakwell handle the rest. 

The Easiest Decision You’ll Make All Week

The next time your partner says, “You pick,” skip the back and forth and say, “I’ve got this.” Booking a date night at Oakwell is a uniquely relaxing experience you can look forward to without turning it into another item on your to-do list. 

One Oakwell booking gives you quality time, plenty of relaxation, and a thoughtful experience you’ll both remember. Ready to book your next date night? Book the Oakwell Couple’s Retreat to enjoy uninterrupted us-time with your partner.