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4 Reasons to Discover Your Wellness Routine for Your Relationship

Your life is shaped by your own passions, interests, hobbies, aspirations, and who you choose to share this journey with. You and your significant other both share valuable experiences and moments through life's ups and downs. Finding a wellness routine can help you thrive and work through the ebbs and flows of a relationship.  Let’s look at some reasons why getting into a wellness routine for your relationship can benefit both you and your partner.

Your Wellness Routine Reason #1: For General Well-Being

You and your partner’s well-being check-ins will be catered to what works best for both of you, but it may be worthwhile to schedule annual appointments with your medical provider to address any concerns that come with different stages of your life.  Early detection can help catch many underlying illnesses. Adding time to your calendar for a doctor’s appointment may seem to be a hassle. However, examinations and tests can provide life-saving assessments that make a difference in your well-being. Check-ins to a health center may plan for:
  • Cancer screening test
  • Cholesterol level test 
  • Blood glucose test 
  • Blood pressure reading
  • Updating prescriptions
  • Reviewing lab results for any referral/recommendations
You and your partner may have health conditions that need more than one primary doctor. For example, find a medical specialist, such as a cardiologist, if a heart issue runs in your partner’s family. Or an endocrinologist if you have a family history of diabetes to help keep you and the ones around you healthier. There are additional health conditions connected to aging concerns as you get older—or even as a young person—that can be related to both you and your significant other dealing with underlying health issues that are common amongst men and women. Some common signs of aging may include hair loss, struggling with mobility, and memory loss issues, amongst many others. Typically, hair loss associated with aging is called androgenic alopecia and may be hereditary. However, there are several causes of hair loss, so be sure to consult a doctor to find the right solutions for you. Loss of mobility may be more common with seniors, but osteoarthritis can even start in young adulthood. Signing up for workout sessions with your other half will get your blood pumping for better heart health and mobility. Finally, trouble recalling information associated with dementia represents a very common challenge for adults as they get older. Try picking up new activities to exercise your mental muscles, like fun, challenging word games or puzzles to do with your partner.

Your Wellness Routine Reason #2: For Social-Emotional Health

You and your partner come from different walks of life with different ways of coping with stressors and challenges in daily life. Dialogue and an open communication style can help prevent harmful actions in relationships when trauma is simply ignored or goes unresolved.  If a conflict arises, try to avoid arguing with your partner. Instead, try to see the issue from his or her perspective. Attending classes offered by relationship experts or therapists can teach techniques to improve socio-emotional health as a couple. The Gottman Institute offers resources for couples to start understanding each other’s communicative needs at an in-depth level.   There are also activities that you and your partner can do together. Mind and body workouts (Yoga, Tai Chi, Pilates, Qigong, Feldenkrais) are great ways to boost your mood on the mat with your workout partner. couple doing yoga

Your Wellness Routine Reason #3: For Financial Health

Routine check-ins with you and your partner’s financial health are important to ensure there is enough money for all your monthly expenses and, of course, a special splurge or two! Researchers found that 44% of millennials do not discuss money issues in a relationship.  Making time on a weekend or available time during the week to openly and honestly look at expenses from loans, credit, debit, and other bills can make sure both you and your partner are on the same page when it comes to money issues. Visiting a financial expert or even a certified financial relationship coach can provide guidance to better save, plan, and grow financially for the goals for the current year and upcoming big purchases or events.  Similarly, there are digital financial apps that couples can use to streamline the process of planning finances for how and when to spend funds. Some common minor expenses can be something like going out to eat or even late-night shopping online for that item that finally went on sale at the last minute. More costly expenses can be getting a new car or paying monthly rent for a place you live in. two men looking at computer together As your relationship progresses, major big-ticket items associated with milestones in your life will come.  Planning a wedding or getting a new home together will require teamwork to make sure that these special moments will not later create conflicts in your relationship over financial costs. Maintaining an open discussion about money from small to big events can allow both of you to avoid any uncomfortable conversations about hidden bank statements or bill receipts.

Your Wellness Routine Reason #4: Assessing Your Relationship and Mental Health

From the very beginning, always check in with yourself and in your relationship. Consider asking yourself the following questions:
  • Are things working for your best well-being?
  • Is your partner respecting your boundaries from a physical, mental, and emotional perspective? 
  • Have things changed from the early ‘honeymoon’ phase of your relationship? 
  • Is your partner secretive or tries to cut you off from your social life or hobbies in a controlling manner?
If there’s ever a time when something happens with your partner where you may doubt the safety of your current relationship, please get in contact with close family, friends, and organizations to protect yourself. Domestic violence or relationship abuse can cause significant harm to both men and women.  In situations where a break-up occurs out of a place of mutual respect and understanding, even then there may be a ‘grieving process’ period from what could have been with you and this person. Spending more time with old friends and visiting favorite or new places can start the process of regaining your confidence after a breakup.  Dealing with a breakup or bad relationship requires all the routines of wellness and self-care to be maintained more than ever to stay mentally healthy for yourself. Making time to have healthy boundaries will protect your mental space from toxic behavior in any kind of relationship. [caption id="attachment_4925" align="aligncenter" width="580"]couple taking a beer bath at Oakwell Beer Spa Beer Bath Hydrotherapy at Oakwell Beer Spa[/caption] Remember, wellness is great for your physical and mental health. The best love is when self-care is built on finding beauty within by giving yourself more reasons to continue to evolve and discover your wellness routine. For any kind of relationship, the bonds of love found in our daily routines can bring joy to you and any future or current partner in your life. You can also keep the spark alive in your relationship by prioritizing regular date nights. Check out this article for at-home date night ideas.